Saturday, December 24, 2011

Communication-Final Blog

It has been a wonderful journey sharing information and resources throughout the course. Now that we have come to the end of another eight weeks it would be an injustice to not share some contact information so that we can continue to share insights on Communication and Collaboration.  My e-mail address for Walden is; markt@waldenu.edu


To all I say THANK YOU FOR EIGHT (8) GREAT WEEKS. The communication journey is just another step towards our specialization. As we move towards the future in working for and with children and families let us remember that the communication process is a rich discipline for the social fabric of relationships (O'Hair, & Wiemann, 2009). 







Hope to share with all of you in the future! Adios!

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Team Building and Collaboration, Part 1

Team Building and Collaboration, Part 1


Consider the adjourning phase for several of the groups in which you have been involved. Think about which aspects of the groups made for the hardest good-bye

The aspects of the group that made for the hardest to say good bye were the face to face meetings and the social gatherings. Discussing and working with the team to ensure that there was a plan in place for how decisions are made on the team and who has responsibility for making decisions. As a past educator in my native island I had to say good bye to my teaching team, the children, and families and my colleagues. As a daughter, I had to say good bye to my mother, my siblings and the extended family we shared for over the years. This stage can be difficult for many. 

 Are high-performing groups hardest to leave? 

For a high performing team, the end of a project brings on feelings of sadness as the team members have effectively become as one and now are going their separate ways. Imagine getting to know others of different cultural backgrounds, the development of friendship and the working together for the same purpose, the same goal! This is the hardest to leave because personal relationships might be disengaged, job tasks may be terminated and we may never see each other again.

Which of the groups that you participated in was hardest to leave? Why?

The group I participated in that was the hardest to leave was my drama group with children and young adults. It was hard to leave because we shared a bond. We had a unique climate that influenced how each member should behave and communicate with each other. We took pride in helping out each other and had great success throughout the years.  Thus each member was motivated to continue after I left and today this group is functioning successfully in my absence.


What sorts of closing rituals have you experienced or wish you had experienced?

Most people typically adjourn with a celebratory dinner or just a simple thank-you and good-bye (O’Hair & Weimann, 2009). The most memorial ritual experienced was when I had to immigrate. I was given a great send off by the school’s team. They celebrated my accomplishments by giving tangible gifts, like plaques with different sayings all dealing with hard work, commitment and success. Also special songs were sung and the event culminated with food and drinks, hugs and kisses, and well wishes.

 How do you imagine that you will adjourn from the group of colleagues you have formed while working on your master’s degree in this program? Why is adjourning an essential stage of teamwork?

Adjourning would not be too difficult because we only know each other through our blogs and discussions.  This is not a bad thing! However, I believe we can form a network of colleagues from the group and we should continue to share information in our blogs. I think we should also plan on graduating so we can physically see each other who is who and who is not whoJ.  Further, as part of the adjourning process I hope we could share phone numbers and keep in touch.
In the adjourning stage teams are moving in different directions because the project is coming to an end (Abudi, G., 2010). Adjourning is an essential stage of teamwork because we can take time to celebrate our achievements, and failures which is good for team’s departure.  We never know who we will work with in the future or not work with and it is important that we view and share past experiences positively.  

Resources
Abudi, G. (2011). The five stages of team development: A case study. Retrieved from http://www.projectsmart.co.uk/the-five-stages-of-team-development-a-case-study.html

O'Hair, & Wiemann, (2009). Real Communication. An Introduction.
Bedford/St. Martin's

Saturday, December 3, 2011

Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent Communication and Conflict Management

The conflict:

This happened last year, 2010. I was just moved from one classroom to the other to be the lead teacher. The same morning it was snowing and according to the policy regarding taking the kids outdoors we have to take the kids unless the temperature is under 32 degrees or the wind chill is high. That morning a parent came in saying that her child is not going outside before asking whether or not we were going outside. I immediately approached the parent reminding her of the policy. She got upset and cursed me out saying she was going to kick my…. You know what! One of the other teachers immediately reported the incident to the director and the parent was called in for a meeting. We discussed the issue but none of us admitted that we did or say something wrong. We argued over what was said and what was not said. No solution was reached and the situation was left hanging. The afternoon when she came to pick her child up from school we did not communicate and up to the time her child left for kindergarten I had very little to say to that parent.

The issue for the parent was that I am new and I should not act as if I was in charge trying to act “stand offish.” The issue for me was that she shouldn’t be telling us that her child was not going outside. The way she said it sounded demanding as if she was in control of what we do or not do in and out of the classroom.
Strategies
I could have used the escapist strategy; that is allowing the parent to have her way and make the decision to avoiding a conflict. This strategy would help avoid direct conflict between the parent and me.  Direct conflict can ruin relationship between parties.
I could have also used the consider options and alternatives strategy by making her know what we can do with the child if we were going to go outdoors. I could have suggested dressing the child warmly by giving her the needed winter attire, or suggested that we can take the child to another classroom for the thirty (30) minutes. This strategy would help manage the conflict effectively.
This was a learning experience for me. If I had greater knowledge of conflict resolution as I have today maybe the conflict would have never occurred OR would have handled differently. The knowledge gained from this course on conflict resolution is now a roadmap in handling conflicts.
Resources
O’Hair, D. & Wiemann, M. (2009). Real communication: An Introduction.  New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s